Are Your Holiday Gatherings More Prickly Than Polite? (This Week's Guest Post)

As image bearers of God, we feel that women have a voice. We thought it would be encouraging to provide a platform for more women writers to share their voices with all of you. We will begin including guest writers from time to time in our blog! I think you'll agree, once you read their thoughts, that these women have rich biblical principles and practical applications to share.

This week's featured guest writer, Samantha A. Wright, author of the blog, "a lil bird told me", is a ministry partner and friend of Greater Reach Ministries. You can read Samantha's bio at the end of this post.

Have you ever played the word association game? Lets try~I say chocolate, saliva develops as you sternly bark….’get me some!’ Or, I say ‘fruitcake’ and you say, ‘that wouldn’t even make my dog drool. Move on.’ What if I say, “family holiday gathering?” Be honest. Do you start perspiring even though it’s 65 degrees? Your eyes start to glaze over as you painfully realize Christmas is just around the corner. You are about to spend hours with people who don’t really like you. In fact, the family tree may be the only reason they gather with you at all.

At Christmas we ponder Jesus as light of the world. But, Matthew 5 states that we, Jesus’ followers, are the light of the world. Is it possible to be the ‘light of the world’ while spending time with family members? Yesterday while I was shopping, I gave the lady behind me in line 2 of my extra coupons. You would have thought I had given her a $20 bill. She was elated. That was easy. Why is it easier to be a light for Christ with a stranger? What happens to that thoughtful spirit in me when I get around my relatives? What is there about us that can be so stubborn about demanding our way when we are with family? Do I demand more from my relatives? Am I a poor communicator? Do my actions corroborate my words or discredit me?

Recently I had to answer these questions when I received a email from a family member that left me shaking. Angry. Hurt. Angry. Disgruntled. Angry. Hopeless. Did I mention ANGRY? It, however, was not a righteous anger. I had to ask myself why the letter caused so much anger within me. Perhaps it was because some of the things in the email were painfully true. Initially, I chose denial fervently building a case for myself of all the things in the letter that were not true. Not a good plan. Fortunately, after much prayer and seeking counsel, I snapped out of denial mode.

Many of the things in the email were not necessarily true, but the result of poor communication. But, regretfully, some of the things were true. My pride did not want to see where I was not being Christ like. Baggage from past interactions prevented me from loving as Christ calls me to love. But when I sought counsel and realized my actions were causing pain in the life of someone, I discovered that I needed to confess those things to God and ask His forgiveness. More importantly, I needed to ask my relative for forgiveness. That, my friend, was not an easy task. If I hear the word apologize the first thought that comes to my mind is, “Gulp, how do you eat an elephant?” Well, as I tell my girls, “you eat an elephant one bite at a time.” What do the first bites look like? Let me suggest the following.

Read Scripture. Perspective is everything and nothing provides perspective like God’s word. We need perspective when asking if there is something I have done to cause conflict in this relationship.

Go to the Person. No emails. No texts. Communication is 90% non-verbal and only 10% verbal. If distance prevents a face to face interaction, make a phone call.
Listen. Listen. Listen. Did I say listen? Our tendency is to defend ourselves. Resist this temptation. God is your defender and protector.

Admit Wrong. I had to say, “You are right. I have___, would you please forgive me?”
Make a Commitment. Tell the person you will try and not commit the offense again and take the necessary steps to back up your words. For me, the culprit was poor communication. I made a commitment to call in the future and not rely on others to communicate for me.

Does it work? A few weeks after our interaction, our families had the chance to get together. Instead of dreading the interaction, I went with hope that things would go better than they have in the past. I felt God’s peace and joy in doing what He has called me to do. Was it easy? No. Were there times I needed a breather and needed to be alone? Yes. But, I can honestly say I had a great time and am not dreading our next family get together.

What about you? Do you need to go to someone before that family holiday gathering and make things right? If so, here may be some utensils to help you eat that elephant one bite at a time~
◦ Read scripture
◦ Go to the person
◦ Listen. Listen. Listen
◦ Admit wrong
◦ Make a commitment

I would love to know how your ‘meal’ went over the holidays. Please comment or email and let me know!

About Samantha: Samantha is passionate about teaching others the truth, whether it is God’s word or every day life lessons. Samantha is a graduate of Phoenix Seminary, and her desire is to use her education, gift of writing, and the lessons God has taught her personally to help others deepen in their relationship with God . Samantha and her husband of 21 years, Tim, have two daughters, an African Grey Parrot ~ Solomon ~ and a yellow lab, AnnaBelle. Samantha uses the quirky life lessons she's learned from friends, strangers and even her African Grey parrot, Solomon, to write different stories.

To read more from Samantha, check out her blog entitled, "A lil bird told me".

Help Us Help Prisoners and Ex-Offenders Change Their Worldview with the Truth About Who They Are

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Jesus Empowers You

By the norms of the day, Christ’s actions throughout Scripture were scandalous! But He went about uninhibited. He healed and helped, forgave and lifted up, loved and blessed women. He even empowered them for a life of ministry. While society placed women among the lowest of the low and Jewish leaders often believed women to be incapable and unworthy of a religious education, Jesus intentionally included women in His Kingdom work. Reaching out to society’s outcasts made a most profound statement: Jesus freely brings personal significance to each of us, and offers eternal life for all.
As He traveled from place to place sharing the Good News, guess who joined Him and His twelve disciples? Yes, women (Luke 8:1-3). He valued their company and partnership in ministry. This was radical! Remember, women were not used to having a public presence. Their lives were lived primarily at home. Now Christ was including them in ministry partnership alongside men. He assigned both genders responsibility and influence as His partners in sharing the Good News.
He also empowered women as His witnesses. Just as the Samaritan woman ran to town shouting and testifying about Him (John 4:28-29), so too did the women tell others when they discovered He had risen from the dead. Women were the first to discover His empty tomb (Luke 24:1-12), and the resurrected Christ “appeared first to Mary Magdalene” (Mark 16:9). He wanted women to spread the greatest news in the history of time! It goes to show what a radical concept this was when we see that none of the men believed what they said (Mark 16:11, Luke 24:11). Men were accustomed to dismissing a woman’s testimony. But if Christ had agreed, He never would have entrusted women with this task.
Time and time again, as Jesus walked the earth teaching and loving, interacting with and ministering to people, He never failed to communicate significance to women. His intentions and character are consistent. While people look at the exterior, He looks at the heart. While the world may shame you for being a woman, He elevates you. While people love conditionally, He loves unconditionally. When men, women, and the whole of society degrade you, He reminds you of your priceless value.
Believe it! Own it! Act on it! Jesus loves you, values you and has come to give you life to the full (John 10:10).

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Hope Floats

A Sandra Bullock movie was released more than ten years ago called “Hope Floats.” Whether or not you’ve seen it, don’t you think just the title itself is compelling? You don’t need to know the storyline to resonate with the joyful buoyancy of hope.

Hope is a chest and chin lifter. It is a burst of fresh air when you’ve been trapped in a dark and stale basement. It is a lifesaver when you are floundering in the deep ocean sea.

Hope is simple … it’s not showy, it’s not dramatic. But it floats. And when you are about to be pulled under the water’s surface, it’s all you need to keep from drowning.

The Bible has much to say about hope. One passage I’ve always found interesting is 1 Corinthians 13:13: “And now these three remain: faith, hope and love. But the greatest of these is love.”

Because I am such a fan of hope, I used to be discouraged that it wasn’t “the greatest of these.” But then I realized that perhaps love is greatest because it is the only one that will be present with us through eternity in heaven (“for if you already have something, you don’t need to hope for it” (Romans 8:24, NLT)).

In heaven, where believers in Jesus Christ will spend eternity, faith and hope will not be present. Faith will not be necessary because we will be living in the presence of the One in whom faith is currently required. And hope will not be there because we will lack nothing; we will have no reason to grasp for the buoyancy of hope … we ourselves will be buoyant!

But for now, while we are here on earth, I love what 1 Peter 1: 3-5 has to say about our living hope, and what we have to look forward to in heaven: “Praise be to the God and Father of our Lord Jesus Christ! In his great mercy he has given us new birth into a living hope through the resurrection of Jesus Christ from the dead, and into an inheritance that can never perish, spoil or fade. This inheritance is kept in heaven for you, who through faith are shielded by God’s power until the coming of the salvation that is ready to be revealed in the last time.”

Are you downtrodden today? Take a firm grip on hope in Jesus Christ! This is hope that floats.

Pressures, Process and Promotion

In His priestly prayer toward the end of His mission on earth, Jesus speaks to the Father, “I glorified you on earth, having accomplished the work that you gave me to do.” John 17:4.

Likewise, as disciples of Jesus following His example, we glorify God by completing the work He’s given us to do. God told us in His word that we are His workmanship created to walk in the good works, which He prepared in advance. The question remains for some of us, how do we discover this ultimate purpose, which He prepared in advance for us personally? Or better yet, how do we get there?

Recently, I had the opportunity to listen to a powerful, dynamic teacher, Dr. Lance Wallnau, who has completed a lifetime of research on organizational and personal transformation. He desires to encourage others to find their purpose and fulfill that one thing God has called them to do. Since this relates to what we teach here at Greater Reach Ministries through our Who Do You Think You Are? Class, I’d like to share some highlights of his insightful and articulate teaching.
First, He mentioned a study from Fuller Seminary graduates. The study concluded that 80% of Fuller Seminary graduates, at the peak of their career, had not reached their ultimate purpose. He then defined convergence to be the place where your passion, divine gifting, and divine timing meet. It’s the place where you are at your affinity, your calling and your ultimate purpose for the Kingdom. In convergence, you will experience divine favor. This means that people will be drawn to you because of a quality of God in you. People who are given divine favor are usually those who have “an extraordinary dialogue with heaven”.

So, how do we reach this place of divine favor and maximizing our gifts and passions? According to Dr. Wallnau, it will be appointed to you by God at the right time. God is the one who puts you into the future. It’s not something you achieve, but it’s something that He does in you and for you. Dr. Wallnau feels that everyone is in a season of “process” until they reach their destiny, where they also may experience many pressures of preparation.
Are you currently in a difficult season, and anxious to arrive at your convergence? He encouraged and exhorted us by reminding us that God shakes our circumstances to refine our gifts for our purpose. You’re also defining your passion. Jesus’ passion was the sheep. He laid down His life for His sheep. In order to lay down your life, there has to be something you love more than your own life. You’re also developing your skills now, and if you’re not failing, you’re not trying hard enough.

Dr. Wallnau feels that anyone can be happy in their current circumstance if they make a connection between what they are going through now and their ultimate destiny. He shared that most people quit because they don’t understand the process. God is using your current pressures for your own promotion. He can relieve the pressure, and release you from your potential, or he can leave it and see if you crack. He feels that this process involves a stretching of who you are to give you greater identity. Dr. Wallnau provided the example of Joseph’s challenging process, which led Him to His promotion.

Obviously waiting is active, so, what can we do in our walk with God during the process to help us prepare? If, like Joseph, God has given you a vision for the future, during your season of “process”, you can look to that next level. Ask yourself what are the characteristics of those currently at the next level? Who will I have to become that I’ve never been before? You can also ask yourself, who will God have to be for me that He’s never been before once I get there? This is the character you can begin to develop with the Lord during your process. Remember, you are God’s workmanship, and He is working in you to develop you for this next level. It’s in His timing, not our own, that you will arrive. Feel like quitting? Of course, God gives grace and will love you just the same, but you will be missing out on the satisfaction of living a purposeful life for His glory!

--By Alyssa Spitale

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Jesus Defies Culture: The Woman at the Well (excerpt 5 of 5)

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In the book, a two-column chart displays the information below. It considers what the cultural and traditional norms were at the time, and contrasts them with how Jesus, the “radical rabbi,” behaved toward the Samaritan woman.

Culture & Traditional Dictated Behavior: A rabbi could not speak to a woman in public.

The Radical Rabbi’s Behavior: Christ speaks to a Samaritan woman. Christ rejected Jewish teaching forbidding talking to women.

Culture & Traditional Dictated Behavior: Jewish leaders considered woman incapable of understanding religious teaching.

The Radical Rabbi’s Behavior: Christ though she was capable of learning.

Culture & Traditional Dictated Behavior: Jewish leaders considered a woman unworthy of religious teaching.

The Radical Rabbi’s Behavior: Christ thought she was worthy and wanted to include her in the plan of salvation.

Culture & Traditional Dictated Behavior: Women were not considered reliable witnesses in Israel.

The Radical Rabbi’s Behavior: Christ knew she would be a witness for Him.

Culture & Traditional Dictated Behavior: Rabbinic law stated that Samaritan women were considered unclean.

The Radical Rabbi’s Behavior: Christ defied this tradition. He rejected Jewish teaching regarding uncleanness.

Culture & Traditional Dictated Behavior: Religious segregation was normal for both women and Samaritans.

The Radical Rabbi’s Behavior: Christ defied this tradition.Culture & Traditional Dictated Behavior: A man would never drink from a woman.

Jesus Defies Culture: The Woman at the Well (excerpt 4 of 5)

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We also know that Jewish leaders of the day considered a woman incapable of a religious education. Jesus engaged her on a deep spiritual level of conversation almost immediately, challenging her understanding of religious teachings. She tried to keep the conversation at the surface, asking about the proper place for worship. Jesus let her ask, then gently guided her back to a level where He could engage her heart. He taught her that what was really important was not where you worship, but whether you worship in spirit and in truth. That was pretty deep for a conversation at a well.

Not only did Jewish leaders consider a woman incapable of a religious education, they saw her as UNWORTHY. Jesus deemed her capable AND worthy of learning … worthy enough to offer her salvation. He tells her that if she knew the gift of God and who it was asking her for a drink, she would have asked Him and He would have given her living water. Jesus invited her into God’s eternal plan.

Finally, women were not considered reliable witnesses in Israel. If Jesus had wanted to spread His Good News through a “respectable” method, He would have had such an encounter with a man. Instead, He chose a Samaritan woman who so changed by their interaction that the first thing she does is witness to her community. She runs and shouts throughout the village, “Come, and see a man who told me everything I ever did. Could this be the Christ?” (verse 29). The Samaritan woman goes from avoiding people in the morning to seeking them out in the afternoon! What happened to her? Do you think her view of herself was changed? What happened to the shame she surely must have felt earlier that same day?

On so many levels Jesus defied tradition and culture in this encounter. Before they met this woman felt alienated, used, and abused. But in this one brief conversation she is given a profound message about her true value—one she had likely never heard in all her years. Through their encounter she became both a member and a messenger of God’s Kingdom. Jesus changed her life! She was liberated, His redeemed image-bearer. She received and responded to His unconditional acceptance of her. This is how Jesus Christ wants to change you today.Stay tuned for the next post with more from "Who Do You Think You Are?"

What a Great Time We Had!

Every time I teach our 8 week class based on my book, “Who Do You Think You Are?” I think, “Wow, this is a great group of women! Best ever!” Though I have taught this class many times now, each time I wonder if the next group of women is going to be as awesome as the last. Well, they are as awesome as the last class! Lyn Fish, our newest staff member, and I taught the 8 week class in May and June, and let me tell you, I am as blessed as anyone to have had the privilege of teaching women who are smart, ready to grow, and blended together into such a harmonious group of believers! Just listen to what a couple of the women said who attended:

“The class was a real blessing. I received confirmation that I am right where God wants me to be and I have already used some of the class information with my mentee. In addition, I am finalizing my Mission Statement which I would not have done without the class so that's a huge blessing.” Lynn Austin

“I know how precious I am to my Savior now. I no longer carry guilt and shame of my childhood and I am as valuable to God as my brothers are. I never knew that. I thought I was here to be their servant. In reality I am here to serve the Lord in whatever ways He calls me to.” Maria Chez

I can’t imagine anything more thrilling and fulfilling than to be able to encourage and equip these precious ones to take the next step on their spiritual journeys. I truly count it a joy, and am grateful to God that He has given me the gift of this ministry. I would love for every woman I know to learn and experience the truths that we discover ed together in 8 short weeks.

If you haven’t taken this class yet and you want to, let us know and we will keep you informed as to when and where it will be taught again. Join us! It could change your life!

Jesus Defies Culture: The Woman at the Well (excerpt 3 of 5)

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The culture came head-to-head with Christ’s behavior. Consider the ways this encounter was so radical, and how many man-made rules He broke. Most striking, rabbinical law stated that Samaritan women were considered unclean. Jesus rejected this Jewish teaching by reaching out to a mixed-race female (that’s two strikes against her), AND whose morality was in question. It would never cross the mind of any “good Jew” to treat this person as a fellow human being.

Secondly, a godly Jewish man, let alone a rabbi (teacher), was not to speak to a woman in public. Men simply did not speak to women in public. In fact, a husband would not even address his wife if he saw her on the street! Yet Jesus, a revered rabbi, willingly initiates conversation with this down-and-out, mixed-race female at one of the village’s social hot spots.

Thirdly, religious segregation was standard for both women and Samaritans. Not only would a Jewish man never drink from a woman’s cup, a rabbi would never even associate with a “sinner.” Think now about how Jesus opened his conversation with the Samaritan woman by asking to have a drink from her cup! This surely alarmed her. He asked to drink from the cup of a woman viewed by the culture to be in a constant state of uncleanness. That’s radical! His request would have been like a white man drinking from a fountain marked “colored only” in Alabama in the 1950s. But here, Jesus Christ Himself not only asks for a drink, He engages in a lengthy conversation with, a woman “sinner” … in public.

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Jesus Defies Culture: The Woman at the Well (excerpt 2 of 5)

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"Now consider the Samaritan woman. Today she would be called a loser. She was seen as such by her community because she had been married five times and was considered immoral. To the Jews she was inferior because she was of mixed race, the wrong religion, a female, and to top it off, she was living an immoral life. She was “defective goods.” While she had been married many times, we do not know whether the immorality was her fault. Divorce law weighed heavily in favor of men, and some of her husbands may have just put her out of the house. Or maybe they were killed in battles. We do not know.
Regardless, the culture defined her as an outcast to be ignored and shunned. Consider her self-image. Who did she think she was? She must have felt pretty low. On a scale ranging from one to ten, she possibly felt a zero. She was used, abused, and alienated—just as so many women have been through the ages and still are around the world are today. Perhaps you identify closely with this woman.
The woman came to the well alone in the middle of the day, which was an unusual time to collect water. The well was a gathering place, a social hub. The women of the village would gather there in the mornings to retrieve their water for the day. But this Samaritan likely felt rejected by her peers and was trying to make do with life on the bottom rung of the social ladder by becoming invisible. So she went to the well when she was sure no one else would be there."

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Planes, Trains, Automobiles and Answered Prayers

What a great trip I had to Eastern Europe in May!

My purpose in going to the European Leadership Forum (a well respected leadership training conference that has been in existence for about nine years) was to connect with many of the five hundred-plus ministry leaders from all over Europe and share our vision for the Global Training Institute for Women (GTI). The Forum was held in Eger, Hungary, and was a rich time of learning and connecting (the weather was great, too!). I was praying that God would lead me to the people He wanted me to talk to … and He did! One such person was Evghenii Sologubenco, president of Moldova Biblical Seminary. He is very excited about what we are doing and even wants to help support women who he can recommend to attend.

I met with the senior pastor of a church in the Republic of Georgia, and a woman from Georgia who works with the Christian Union there. Both were so eager for what I was sharing about. They agreed: “You will have one hundred women wanting to come from our country alone!”

Then we travelled to Slovakia where we spent two days with Tomas and Ester Kriskova. He is a pastor, and she works with International Needs, an organization we have partnered with in the past in Romania. After sharing the GTI plan and vision with them, she said, “I have taught many of the topics on your curriculum grid. But I have never had a systematic way of presenting this material. You are adding the missing piece!” She also said that she was excited about the mentoring component and added, “We don’t have older Christian women as role models. None.” She, too, wants to be involved.

To top it off, a woman who heads up a publishing house in Norway sought me out to talk to me about the possibilities of translating my book, “Who Do You Think You Are” into Norwegian! Wow! I am certainly open to this new opportunity.

I am grateful to God for safety in travel, good health, and making all connections (though at one point I thought we were going to miss our train to Slovakia because our other train was late). God is at work. There is more, much more. Please just know that I appreciate your prayers, support and involvement with me and the rest of the GTI as we plow the ground and plant seeds for God’s Kingdom!

Jesus Defies Culture and Meets You at the Well (Series 1 of 5)

One of my favorite portions of Scripture from the life of Christ is John 4:1-30. This is the account of Jesus’ encounter with the Samaritan woman at the water well. On so many levels this passage strikes me. It teaches how radically God pointedly pursues me and you – all women of every race and region – in His great love for us.
This is the first of five blog entries where I share excerpts from my book, “Who Do You Think You Are?” If you like what you read and want more, as they say, “where that came from,” buy the book for yourself today(click here)! In addition to grounding you in your true identity as God’s image-bearer, it will also help you joyfully uncover and live out your unique purpose in life. You will not be disappointed!

Jesus Defies Culture: The Woman at the Well (excerpt 1 of 5)

"Jesus assigned women new freedom, status, and roles. He began reforming the Jewish patriarchal system as it had been established in the Old Testament. When you read John 4:1-30, you see an account of Jesus’ interaction with a Samaritan woman at the water well, and it reveals just how radically His actions flew in the face of society. He rejected several rabbinical teachings in this passage, and His behavior made no sense to those around him.

Starting with verse 3 we read, “When the Lord learned of this, he left Judea and went back once more to Galilee.” Galilee is north of Judea with Samaria in between. The Jews wouldn’t step foot in Samaria if they could possibly help it. There was a long-standing hatred between Jews and Samaritans. The Samaritans were a mixed-race people, half Assyrian and half Jewish, and their religion was a mixture of Judaism and other beliefs. Any mixing of the Jewish race or their religion was detested by the Jews. This hatred was so common, a well-known rabbinical ordinance stated, “Let no Israelite eat one mouthful of anything that is a Samaritan’s, for if he eats but a mouthful, he is as if he ate swine’s flesh.”1 Swine was an unclean food, forbidden for Jews to eat. The Jews considered the Samaritans to be unclean, just like pork.

To avoid going through Samaria, Jews would walk an extra seventeen miles to cross the Jordan and go around—basically doubling the length of the journey. Still today, two thousand years later, there are Jews who refuse to go through certain portions of the land. But verse 4 tells us that Jesus “HAD to go through Samaria” (emphasis mine). When any good Jew would not step foot in Samaria but go the extra distance just to avoid doing so, this statement should prompt us to ask, WHY? Apparently, Jesus had a God-ordained appointment with a woman who needed to know Him."

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Like Having a Map in a Foreign Country …

Who do you think you are?
If I could sit down with you right now over a cup of coffee, that’s what I’d ask you. (That’s right, I’m not much for small talk!) I’m not asking what you do for a living or who you’re married to or how you’re related to someone important. I’m wondering just who, exactly, you think you are!
The question is also the title of my latest book, one from which I share the excerpt below. May it get the wheels of your mind turning, and may it prompt you to ask hard, heartfelt questions of the Lord. He longs to meet you in your need … He longs to answer your deepest questions of identity.

When someone has embraced her true identity she can begin to live out the unique calling God has placed on her life. The first step to living your calling is to internalize a biblical perspective of your identity. My hope is that you will do
this in the same way you would take hold of a map in a foreign country.

Imagine never having set foot in a strange land. Everything is new. You don’t recognize the language people speak, let alone know how to read it. You can’t tell north from south. So how in the world would you get from point A to point B? A map or a GPS device would become your one source for even the slightest feeling of reassurance in this uncomfortable situation.

(My husband) Fred is not intimidated by such unfamiliarity. He loves the adventure of striking out into the unknown. His attitude is best summarized every time he exclaims with a smile on his face, “I can figure it out!” I, however, like to know where I am going. I relish the feeling of a map in my hands or the sight of a GPS device mounted on the dash of my vehicle.

Once when we were traveling together in Budapest, we needed to head out of town toward Romania. Without a GPS available, we circled the city for half an hour. When we drove past our hotel for the second time, once again at ground zero,
Fred finally admitted he needed a map. Ah … direction. True direction! The map we bought was new. It was up-to-date and reliable. We could trust it. And thanks to the map – viola! – we were on our way.

We clung to it because we were lost without it. And now, no matter what anyone told us, we knew the lay of the land. Should a stranger have offered directions contrary to our map, we would have smiled and said, “Thanks, but no thanks.” We could confidently drown out every voice contrary to the map because we knew it was right! We could rely on it and dismiss any confusing directions offered to us by well-meaning strangers.

This is what a biblical worldview of your identity does for you. It drowns out every lie and twisting of the truth that stands opposed to God’s truth. It stands secure, steady, and true while your fickle feelings, faulty assumptions, the media, poor role models and other such worldly influences mercilessly attack it. But nothing else matters when you hold the truth in your possession. You know who you are.

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Why the Middle East? Why Now?

Protests. Rebels. Riots.

Unrest. Turmoil. Upheaval.

The Middle East is teeming with instability and change. The political landscape doesn’t necessarily reflect the spiritual landscape, but the two are intertwined on some level. If the political scene can accurately be described as unpredictable, so too can the spiritual climate be described as insecure.

Questions abound right now for women in the Middle East. The current environment creates new opportunities for the Gospel; it heightens people’s awareness of their need for answers. We at Greater Reach, through our friends, ministry partners, and our own missions trips, have witnessed firsthand this great spiritual hunger.

The door right now is wide open! We don’t know how long this will hold true … so we must walk through it!

1. Women are telling us they don’t know what it is to be valued as an Image-bearer. The truth that women are valuable and loved is simply not said, heard, or shown in the Middle East. More than 90 percent of the population is Muslim. What this means is that if a woman becomes a follower of Jesus Christ, it’s a tall order that she would also claim a Christian worldview right away … if at all. Because Muslim culture permeates everything, even the deepest parts of a woman’s soul, it may be next to impossible for a new Christian to see God as a loving, grace-filled Father. For a woman to see herself with dignity and value as God does … this is a complete worldview shift that directly opposes everything ingrained in her by the culture.

2. Women are telling us they want to be educated in the Bible. Such programs are simply not available. Well-intended efforts by foreign missionaries in the past have often failed because their approach was like that of a “drive-by Gospel shooting.” Christian groups come in with their own agenda, fail to truly get to know the women, and leave little impact.
We have seen the need. We have heard the cry. We are responding with the launch in 2012 of the Middle East Global Training Institute for Women. Our goal is to unleash women of influence to impact their world for Jesus Christ. As we get to know them on their own turf, we will also educate and mentor them in Biblical understanding, character development, and ministry skills … all the while building them up as God’s precious children.

It’s an exciting cause. The time is now. The place is the Middle East. Won’t you join us in impacting lives for all eternity?

Send us an email today for more information about the Global Training Institute for Women: info@greaterreach.com.

Mother’s Day, Memorial Day, and May In Between

May is a month of honor. Starting it off, on Sunday, May 8, we observed Mother’s Day. Wrapping it up, we have Memorial Day on Monday, May 30. And in between, a new group of women will be immersed in a class I am teaching based on my book, “Who Do You Think You Are.” The common theme in all of these? God’s abundant love for each one of us.

On Mother’s Day, I could see God’s bright smile on mothers everywhere. No mother is perfect, and no mother is expected to be. Instead, she is called to a life of love. Through our heavenly Father’s sweet presence and strong Word we are equipped for the task at hand. And by His grace He fills in the gaps.

Moms of young children and moms of adult children know so well the words of 1 John 3:18, “Dear children, let us not love with words or speech but with actions and in truth.” A mother’s words impact us, of course, but it’s the consistent love she demonstrates in her actions day in and day out that shapes us. By her example we see a reflection of God’s posture toward us—arms wide open, eager to embrace His children.

Memorial Day is a national holiday in America allowing us to give tribute those who have given their lives in service to our country. As we consider the great, bold sacrifice our troops have made for us, we thank God for the privileges afforded us here in the land of the free. And we pause to thank Him for the sacrifice Jesus Christ made on the cross, purchasing our freedom from sin and death.

In between May’s two “M” holidays, you have a month of days lying wide open in wait. You can let them slip by without nary a second thought. Or you can approach them intentionally, eager to embrace God’s love and be a conduit of His love in others’ lives. I hope the latter for you, and for all of the women in my “Who Do You Think You Are” class. May God’s great love fill us to overflowing, that we might spill over with it into others’ lives in a tangible, intentional way.

“Teach us to number our days, that we may gain a heart of wisdom” (Psalm 90:12).

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When the World Presses In, Press On

I don’t care how old you are. If you’re old enough to be reading this, you’re old enough to know that along with life’s blessings and joys comes life’s setbacks and disappointments. You don’t need me to tell you that. Maybe you’re tired. Maybe you’re burdened. Perhaps you’ve become so accustomed to discouragement that now you stand on borderline hopelessness. So … how do you deal when you feel you’ve been given more than your fair share of trials?

The world will tell you several things:

· “Time to pull yourself up by your own bootstraps!”
· “Buck up, Kiddo, no one said life would be easy.”
· “Try harder.”
· “It’s a cruel world out there. You need to stand up for Number One no matter who gets in the way.”

None of these is helpful. None of these will actually get you anywhere. But because we live in the world, we by default hear the world’s so-called advice.

Praise God, what He has to speak into your situation is entirely different. Here are just a few things He wants you to know right now in your struggle:

· “Indeed, the very hairs of your head are all numbered. Don’t be afraid; you are worth more than many sparrows.” (Luke 12:7)
· “In this world you will have trouble. But take heart! I have overcome the world.” (John 16:33)
· “Take my yoke upon you and learn from me, for I am gentle and humble in heart, and you will find rest for your souls. For my yoke is easy and my burden is light.” (Matthew 11:29-30)
· “And the God of all grace, who called you to his eternal glory in Christ, after you have suffered a little while, will himself restore you and make you strong, firm and steadfast.” (1 Peter 5:10)

God’s words are truth. Do you believe what He is saying to you in the verses above? It’s one thing to acknowledge what He says, it’s quite another to live by what He says.

It’s also probably obvious to you that the Lord is not promising to make your troubles disappear in an instant. Rather, He reveals what is to be your focus during this time of trial: Himself. You center your attention on Him by spending time with Him in prayer (Philippians 4:6). Think about Him as your Help, Savior and Friend. And then what? “The peace of God, which transcends all understanding, will guard your hearts and your minds in Christ Jesus” (Philippians 4:7).

But if you’re still wondering how to think about anything other than what’s weighing you down, consider the very next verse: “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things” (Philippians 4:8).

What is holding you back today? Do you need to take some time in prayer right now to confess your unbelieving heart and wayward thoughts? Do you need to ask for God’s grace to help you really live by His truth? Talk to Him. Let Him meet you in your need. He’s eager to hear from you and walk with you through your struggle.

“Who Do You Think You Are” Book Feedback

If you ask any of us here at Greater Reach about the book “Who Do You Think You Are,” you’ll hear nothing but good things. (We can’t help it … we love it. We believe its message has life-changing power.) But you can’t just take our word for it! Women around the world are excited about it, too.

Read this unedited book recommendation from reader Susan Marovic:

“Women looking for a greater role in the world and wanting to know how to be MORE . . . this is the book for you. Dr. Beasley explores some of our assumptions about ourselves and how our families helped us form these assumptions. For example, “when we have a painful emotional experience, we women often blame ourselves.” I do not know of a woman who has not done this very same thing. She helps us find out if our assumptions about ourselves are rooted in our culture or society and how to come up with more accurate views of ourselves. Jesus communicated a true respect for women in His day and was quite revolutionary in His thinking. ‘Jesus intentionally included women in His Kingdom work’ helped me realize that God has a definite place and job for me in His Kingdom. “

Another area that helped me understand others was the area of self-esteem. This is one of the fruits of skewed assumptions about ourselves. For example, Dr. Beasley states:

“‘If you have chronic low self-esteem, I need to tell you that you are most likely self-absorbed. Women with low self-esteem are as self-absorbed as the biggest egomaniac because their thoughts revolve around themselves, their problems, and how bad or unworthy they are. This will hold you back from accomplishing anything.’

“She also helped me understand that my career is not necessarily a mandate from God—‘your personal mandate is about something much bigger than a paycheck. It involves your entire life, not just your working hours.’

“This book is written for the woman with a busy career AND a woman who does not work but desires true significance—it IS more than a paycheck, despite what the world would have you believe!”

And there you have it … straight from not our lips, but from the fingertips of an eager reader!

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By: Kristin Beasley (Jodi Carlson)

The Feast of Your Dreams

Let’s say you’re invited to the White House for a once-in-a-lifetime dinner gala. Of course you buy a new dress and wear the most painful heels. But the dinner rewards you a hundred-fold. It is nothing short of spectacular. You eat five courses of endless deliciousness. Every bite of each dish is proof that you’ve died and gone to heaven. Exquisite flavors. Divine delight. Nothing was held back in the preparations for this fine feast! Now, what if you were given the original recipes that the chefs used, and you wanted to go home and recreate each of them so that your family could taste what you did? The task may seem daunting. You don’t have the same expensive cooking tools or equipment. You don’t have access to the rare ingredients that were used. You don’t have the time, and you certainly don’t possess the cooking prowess.

There in your own home, the flavors fading fast from your tongue, you’re tempted to settle. You want to make substitutions and take shortcuts. In the end, you’ll serve the meal on your worn and chipped dinnerware. You may have started this task with gusto, but along the way, the difficulties cause you to shrug your shoulders and settle for something that’s a poor imitation of the original.

Now, what if I told you your God-given dreams face the same threat? The truth is, God has mighty plans for you. They are as specific as each of the five courses of that White House meal. God’s plans for you are wonderful and magnificent! When we first realize them, we rejoice as a hungry dinner gala guest. But when it comes time for us to pursue His dreams for our lives (which He places in our hearts), we feel we’ve been given a recipe card and nothing else. There’s no way we can create the feast ourselves! We balk at the thought. We stall under the obstacles (our grocery store doesn’t carry those exotic ingredients.) We become frozen by the setbacks (20-year-old cookware). We see a cook who doesn’t stand a chance (our own lack of training and skill).

It’s SCARY!

It’s certainly IMPOSSIBLE!

So, we then do one of two things: we try making cheap substitutions for the real dream along the way, or we give up on the dream entirely. Neither one is what God wants for us.

What He wants is to bring His dreams to fruition in your life! He does not want your obstacles to have the last say. He does not want you substituting. Or whining. Or giving up. What He wants is for you to take your inexperience, your lack of resources, your skeptical outlook, and give it all to Him. He is the Master Chef. HE has the experience. HE has the resources. HE has the ways and means. HE will accomplish His purpose for your life.

So, how do you embrace the impossible dream? You recognize that you are not the chef, after all. He is. You are His assistant. You are to listen for His voice in the kitchen and respond by doing what He asks. It’s your life, yes, but they are His dreams. Obstacles do not have the last say. You are to simply bring your insufficiencies and shortcomings to Him. Let Him slice, dice, and blend up the perfect concoctions … His dreams for your life.

He wants the feast of your dreams even more than you do. Together, the two of you will accomplish “the impossible!”

“Take delight in the LORD, and he will give you the desires of your heart” (Psalm 37:4).

By: Kristin Beasley (Jodi Carlson)

Take a Seed, Bloom a Flower

When you look at a plumeria seed, what do you see? (Don’t think too hard.) I see a seed. That’s it. That’s all. Just a seed.
When you look at a fully bloomed plumeria, what do you see? Again – it’s not hard. I see a plant sprouting gorgeous blooms of flowers (and I smell heaven itself!).
Hold the seed side-by-side with the flower and it’s hard to believe that the one will become the other. Of course, this transformation doesn’t happen in an instant. It actually takes many, many months, even years. And it requires a few external sources … good soil, rays of sunshine, cups of water, an ideal climate. All combine to grow a simple little seed into a radiant, eye-catching sight to behold.
Now, if a plumeria seed’s purpose was to remain a seed for life, it would be a sad existence, don’t you think? We might not ever give it the attention it deserves. But because we know that this seed is made for more, we care for it. We love, nurture, and tend to it. When we hold this seed, we don’t reach to chuck it in the garbage can; we reach for the potting soil and the watering pail. May I suggest that when you hold this seed, you are holding a nugget of potential.
We at Greater Reach are seed-finders, seed-lovers, and gorgeous-flower-bloomers. We meet and minister to women around the globe who are at a hard point in life, but all we can see is their God-given potential for more. He has a calling on their lives that they just don’t see … yet. They think they are stuck, destined to be a seed forever. But we get to bring them the Good News of Jesus Christ! We get to show them their true identity and their real potential made possible by His great gift on the cross. It’s an exciting honor! It keeps us moving forward, continually investing in “the least of these” (Matthew 25:40).
To whom are you ministering? With whom do you need to share the Good News? To whom do you need to unveil the reality that a seed is just a seed for the moment? By the power of the Holy Spirit, a life blooming with beauty and purpose lies just ahead!

By: Kristin Beasley (Jodi Carlson)

Ruba, Synergy, New News!

What great times we have had at Greater Reach... Ruba, founder of Arab Woman Today Ministries, was here for a meeting with our Global Training Institute for Women team. She gave very helpful information on launching our training program in the Middle East. We couldn't be more excited about it! Ruba is sitting on the right, between me and Simone Lake.

Then I had the privilege of travelling to the Synergy Conference in early March...I presented two workshops and connected with some awesome women of God. Judy Douglas, in the picture on top, and wife of Campus Crusade for Christ president Steve Douglas, is pictured with me.

Finally, we welcomed Lyn Fish, from Avant Ministries, to our staff and she is already proving herself to be a real gift from God!

Oh, and I continue to get positive feedback from women who have read and benefitted from "Who Do You Think You Are"! It is now listed on Barnes and Noble's web site. Order some copies and find out what women are talking about! Thanking God today for all He is doing, Kristin

God at Work: In Us and Through Us!

We are all very excited at what God is doing in us and through us at Greater Reach Ministries...we lost (well, we didn't lose, but she definitely had a life change of direction) a staff member, Caye Siller, to marriage last month. She moved to Michigan and hopes to do some ministry travel with us in the future. Congratulations, Caye.

Pictured on the right: The GRM board celebrating my birthday. We had a Board meeting/retreat last month where we did lots of dreaming and planning as well as praying and rejoicing over God's goodness to us!

And we are adding a new staff person, Lyn Fish. I am very excited about this and well tell you more later. We are also moving ahead with the Global Training Institute for Women, launching Lord willing in the Middle East next spring.

Please keep us in your prayers. The resistance to life-changing truth can be formidable, but God is greater than the resistance we face and loves to show His gentle, mighty power. To God be the glory!

Middle East Travels

Meeting with the head of the Palestinian Bible Society in the former offices of the head of the PLO-celebrating Orthodox Christmas Eve (January 6-got to celebrate Christmas twice this year!), in Nazareth with dear friends; sharing the dream of the Global Training Institute for Women with influential women in Jerusalem, and Amman, Jordan. Add to that a bout of food poisoning (which happened in London), and (always) flight delays, and you have a snapshot of the last two weeks of my life.
As I have said before, "everywhere I go I see Him". And see Him I do in the lives of those who represent Him in the Middle East! It is a privilege to serve God and it is also amazing to think we at Greater Reach can partner with our brothers and sisters in that part of the world. We can and will be a resource....thanks for praying!